Some People Really Should Stay Single

Some People Really Should Stay Single


They go from one marriage to the next, pausing to ask, “Why is a nice girl (or guy) like you still single?” Maybe they should try staying single themselves!

Some People Really Should Stay Single
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I get a lot of press releases every week from companies that want me to write something about their product and service — everything from can openers to the “latest, greatest” dating website — and in the case of the latter, I received one this week that gave me a “what the …?” pause.

It was for yet another extra-marital dating website, launched in Europe, with plans to bring their services to the United States. According to the press release: “…with its original sin theme, Gleeden has tempted more than 250,000 subscribers in its first 7 months.”

So my single friends, especially those who are in despair because you’re still not married despite your diligent efforts, guess what? It appears that hundreds of thousands of marrieds are forking over big bucks and a lot of their time to play single! How’s that for ironic?

We already know there are a significant number of marrieds masquerading as singles on dating websites. It reminds me of those televangelists, the ones that are so avidly anti-gay. In public, they condemn gay people as sinners; meanwhile, they’re having secret, same-sex affairs, unbeknownst to their spouses who think they live together in holy matrimony.

Larry King and Elizabeth Taylor
Two high-profile, multiple-married celebrities who might have been better off staying single.

Then there are those people who go from one marriage to the next. The following are just a handful with at least five marriages to five different people: the Gabor sisters, Kenny Rogers, Joan Crawford, Andre Previn, Tammy Wynette, Richard Pryor and even “Dog the Bounty Hunter.” And what about Elizabeth Taylor with eight marriages to seven husbands? At last count, Larry King, one of America’s most popular talk show hosts had five children from his seven marriages to six women.

Don’t you think that some people, including those 250,000 plus who signed up for the extra-marital dating site, would be a lot better off if they just accepted the fact that being single is a viable lifestyle choice? If not for themselves, at least for the children they create and then drag from one marriage to the next. Wouldn’t it be better to just stay single?

When Singular magazine launched back in 2008, conservative talk show host Dennis Prager interviewed me on his radio show. At the time, Prager was divorced from his second wife. Now he’s married to his third wife. His purpose for having me on his show was to lambast the concept of Singular and SingularCity, and our position that it’s just fine to be single.

His adversarial position was that single people are morally inferior, lacking in maturity and simply not as good as married people. He tried tirelessly for an hour to make me agree with him but I would not, I could not, because I truly believe that marriage will not turn character flawed, immature people into paragons of virtue. But if you believe Prager, that is an absolute truth.

I have many terrific married friends who dearly love their spouses and who honor their commitment of fidelity. I might even consider getting married myself someday. But enough already with the moral superiority and the hypocrisy from those married folks who try to make their single friends, family and co-workers feel less-than just because of their marital status.

In addition, maybe some of them – those with the multiple marriages or those who have memberships to those extra-marital dating websites (or profiles on singles websites) – should consider the fact that they’d create a lot less havoc in the world if they would just stay single.

Text copyright © 2013 Kim Calvert/Singular Communications, LLC

Kim CalvertKim Calvert is the editor of Singular magazine and the founder of the SingularCity social networking community. An outspoken champion of people who are living their lives as a “me” instead of a “we,” Kim oversees the creative direction and editorial content of the magazine and online social networking community. She secures contributors and is responsible for maintaining the fun, upbeat, inspirational and often-humorous tone of Singular, a lifestyle guide for successful single living.

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2 thoughts on “Some People Really Should Stay Single

  1. Great post and I agree 5billion%. I am sick of being asked, “really, you are single, still?!” Some people I shake my head at and look away because I know they either do not like their spouce (or that is how they truly act) or are dying to end their marriage. IF my life was so crap why are you vying to be like me?

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