Learn to tap into your higher self and then discover self-love and a dating life that that will bring greater satisfaction and better relationship potential.
How many dates have you been on that felt like a waste of time and energy? And yet, how else can you find out if someone has relationship potential? Even if you’re enjoying the freedom and fun of your single life and not desperate to find a long term partner, you still want to date quality people and have a satisfying love life.
Enter spiritual dating, a new paradigm to create more self-love in your life and the key to successful dating. In this case, spiritual doesn’t mean religious. It means conscious and mindful.
1) Cultivate self-love. Choose you. Self-love is the key to a satisfying love life. Strengthen yourself to attract the best dates and to have the most fun. Everything improves when self-love is in the game. Your life grows more meaningful when you love yourself. It takes the neediness out of dating when you are happy and fulfilled on your own. A great date or relationship is just the icing on the cake.
With a healthy level of self-love, you guarantee your own overall happiness. That same self-love transforms you into a compelling and alluring prospective date. In the beginning of a relationship, an air of self-reliance and a bit of mystery makes you more interesting. Emotionally healthy people are attracted to people who have their own lives and are happy in themselves. Your presence enhances their life and vice versa, and that creates the foundation for a good relationship.
2) Consider yourself sacred. You can create a happy, healthy life by remembering that you are sacred. Sacred means precious, special, a treasure of true beauty — that’s you! If you consider yourself sacred, you can trust yourself. You know that you’re going to make great decisions that honor you. In that way, you can feel emotionally safe.
3) Consider your dates to be sacred. If you can’t see your date as sacred, then they aren’t the right person for you. Create a pleasurable, loving relationship by remembering your partner is sacred and not settling for someone who doesn’t see your own sacredness. Sacredness is the key!
4) Your dates must see themselves and you as sacred. You can usually figure this out by date number three. Be observant and notice how your dates talks about themselves. Do they engage in lots of negative self-talk? If so, they don’t see themselves as sacred. How do they treat you on the date? Does he or she really listen and are they present? Are you being treated with complete respect? Those are starting points to determine if they see you and themselves as sacred. Listen to your intuition. You will be able to sense the vibe easily and quickly — if you tune into it.
If your date doesn’t clearly see you as sacred, move on. Choose a fun night out with friends or go to an art opening or yoga workshop. Cherish your sacredness and hold out for it in all of your relationships. The fact is, you are a treasure and being single is fun, free and infinitely more attractive than being coupled with the wrong person. Make choices that support how wonderful you are. If you don’t believe you are wonderful, fake it until you make it because in truth, you are wonderful!
If you are willing to try, you can learn how to feel sacred. Self-acceptance creates true feelings of emotional safety. This is crucial if you are going to be ready for a mature partnership. Date on your terms. Don’t settle for less than the sacred, safe love life you deserve.
Once you’ve cultivated self-love and recognized your sacredness, then you can put time into dating because you’re ready and in a space to get better results. Take dating slowly at first until you figure out if the other person is right for you. As a busy singular, you can ask yourself if a potential date sees themselves as sacred? No? Lots of negative self-talk and self-destructive behaviors? If you’re a spiritual dater, skip it. Your time is too precious!
Notice their behavior towards you. Does he stare at your chest when you’re talking? Does she engage emotionally, in an authentic and kind way that feels healthy and right to you? Explain the concept of spiritual dating and ask them if they see you and themselves as sacred. If not, save time and energy by waiting for a better quality person.
When you find a prospect that fits these criteria, start spiritually dating. Really get to know each other. Give yourselves some time to connect before jumping into the land of intimacy and hormones. Those heady lust chemicals can make an okay date seem like an Adonis or Aphrodite! Keep a clear head and look at your compatibility. At the same time, feel if you have fun together. Is there an exciting sexual and sensual chemistry brewing? Find out his/her plans for the future and compare those plans to yours. Do you fit well together?
Choose to be very self-aware and be mindful of your dating life. Create a brand new paradigm in your own love life, one that honors you.