Despite the fact that singulars are the fastest growing demographic in the world, there’s no escaping the pressure to feel bad if you’re single on February 14.
With another Valentine’s Day on the way, it’s time, once again, to be bombarded with media and social pressure about what we’re going to get or give to our one true love — “that” special one — that happily-ever-after person.
According to the media blitz, not only should we have a fairy tale romance unfolding in real life but, on February 14, we must commemorate it with an expensive dinner, a piece of jewelry, roses, chocolate – or maybe even a new Jaguar.
I have nothing against the aforementioned goodies, certainly not the Jaguar, but I also know that Valentine’s Day can feel like one of the most annoying days of the year if you don’t have a Prince or Princess Charming to buy stuff for, or who will buy stuff for you. You can’t turn on the TV, the radio or access your Facebook stream without hearing, in a reverse kind of way, that if you’re single, you won’t be getting jewelry or other gifts on Valentine’s Day.
But don’t despair! The relationship coaches and matchmakers are standing by and promise to resolve all by next Valentine’s Day, providing you follow their pricey advice. The whole deal seems to be such a set up for feeling “less-than” and too many single people end up casting themselves on the beach of woe like lemmings on the shore.
Even if you are in a romantic relationship, you won’t escape unscathed. Men sweat over what to buy their girlfriends. Women compare what their current boyfriend did compared to the ex, as well as what she got compared to what her girlfriends got. It’s become a minefield of expectations and veiled disappointments.
So this week, we’ve created a special “spike” Valentine’s Day edition of Singular magazine online. Since you’re getting plenty of sugary propaganda everywhere else, you might enjoy something with a saltier singular point of view!
And although the frantic fury of V-Day will unfold as usual, I propose we celebrate in a simpler way that focuses on our fabulous singular friends. I hope all of you will “B-Mine” because “I-M Mad 4-U” and send you my admiration and affection on this Valentine’s Day.