There’s nothing like classic burlesque to embody the tremendous sexual allure and appeal of a woman exercising her sexual power.
I had the pleasure of attending the provocatively titled “Boobs, Books & Burlesque” invite-only event at the swanky Culver Hotel in Culver City on Tuesday, March 8. The night raised funds for the Dr. Susan Love Research Foundation, dedicated to a future without breast cancer. The burlesque aspect included performances by a couple of sultry dancers and a book signing with Leslie Zemeckis, author of “Goddess of Love Incarnate,” a biography about history’s famous burlesque queen, Lili St. Cyr, a woman reporter Mike Wallace once called “the highest paid stripteaser in America.”
I’ve always been fascinated by the world of exotic dance performance. The seduction, the tease, the fantasy — it’s the ultimate form of female sexual expression. To have the confidence to reveal yourself so intimately, in a public forum, is something to behold. I wonder what draws women to this world, and perhaps, that’s something Zemeckis explores in her book. I suspect the answer lies somewhere between self-gratification and empowerment. These women are fully conscious of the profound effect their sexual swagger has on those who dare to watch.
A Seinfeld episode touched on the hypnotic-like state the female tease manifests in men during an episode where there was a “poke” and a “peek” because “there was cleavage in the area.” What made Seinfeld so spot-on when it comes to confounding situations with the opposite sex was that it never shied away from the truth: we men are animals.
No matter how intellectually or emotionally developed, men will always be creatures of their more primal instincts. A proper display of female sexuality lures us in and demands our immediate attention. In that moment, men are powerless, intoxicated by seductive dance and captivated by the force of feminine eye contact. Men allow themselves to dream, be inspired and to fantasize. And even if their response appears to be purely physical, I can assure you, their reaction is not limited to below the belt.
What many modern women fail to recognize and could learn from the dancers of classical burlesque, is that the allure of one’s physical assets does not negate the appeal of your mind and emotions. The burlesque dancer knows the two go hand-in-hand — without one, you don’t have the other. Supreme strength, independence and confidence are all required to do what they do — and those are qualities men find extremely attractive.
As progressive as American society portrays itself, when it comes to frank discussions about sex and the power of female sexuality, we’re still hiding beneath the covers — precisely what endears the art of burlesque to so many. Burlesque thrusts feminine sex appeal into the open. A woman’s body is beautiful and should be celebrated. No one should have to apologize for acknowledging it. How you walk, how you move, how you look at someone are all physical manifestations that help create a woman’s sexual essence.
By nature, we were designed to be sexy. Without it, we’d never find each other attractive enough to perpetuate the species. Burlesque applauds the sexual being in all of us. I’ll never understand what specifically draws women to men. I’m not even sure they can explain it. But I know precisely what turns men onto women. And it all begins with a tease.
Copyright © Steve Matoren/2016 Singular Communications, LLC.
Steve Matoren is a single man living in Los Angeles with lots of thoughts in his head he’s not shy about sharing. In addition to writing for Singular magazine, his carefully crafted thoughts have appeared online at ESQUIRE.com, HuffingtonPost.com, LaughSpin.com and medium.com. Steve can be reached via Twitter @imaliveoutthere or via email at firstname.lastname@example.org