Not So Young Anymore

Not So Young Anymore

Instead of slowing down, I plan to speed up. There’s so much left to do and no time like the present to dig into life and make those dreams a reality.

Not So Young AnymoreZhasmina Ivanova / 123RF Photo

I had a startling realization the other day – I’m not so young anymore. For the last decade, I’ve been pretty successful at hanging on to the perception that I was maybe in my late 40s. Sure, I knew that wasn’t the case, but it was easy to forget the DOB on my driver’s license because I’ve worked hard to keep the age wolf from the door – exercise, a little Botox here and there, and certainly my escape from a wage slave existence. Being my own boss and not having kids saved me some mileage and supported the plausible denial that for the last couple of decades, I’ve held the age meter somewhere south of 50.

But you can only perpetuate your own bullshit for so long, so here’s the truth: I’m 61. OMG, I said it! I told you! And there’s more: no matter how I work to keep the clock at bay and might look younger than my chronological age, things are changing on the inside.  The back’s a little stiff, knees a little creaky, and there’s other things too, that just don’t slip and slide like they did in my 30s.

Despite surrendering to this reality and declaring it out loud here, I have absolutely no intention of slowing down or simplifying my life. There are no plans to “retire” – a word I can barely utter.  Instead, I’m wide-eyed with the realization that if there’s anything more I want to do, anything else I want to try, experience or challenge myself with, the time is now.

When you’re younger (or simply believe you are), it’s easy to keep that bucket list on the top shelf. You think there will be plenty of time to write that novel, take the eco-tour through the jungles of Indonesia, start your real estate empire and all those other grand ideas you plan to get to – one day.

Well, I just realized something: that one day has arrived. I’m not going to be any more ready than I am right now. I figure I’ve got 20 years – two short decades – to finish kicking ass before I want to even begin to consider slowing down and “simplifying” my life.

It’s kind of like when I moved to Milan, Italy, back in the 1990s. I thought I would stay there forever. I took trains to nearby Venice and Portofino, but never ventured beyond that comfortable four-hour train ride radius. Sure, I’d get to Rome, Tuscany and all those iconic other places – but no rush, I had all the time in the world. Well, I ended up returning to the United States without going, and now maybe I never will.

The point being, if you haven’t grasped it already: seize the day, especially if it’s getting “later” in the day and you’re suddenly aware that the sun is moving toward the western horizon. If there’s a risk you’re tempted to take, it’s not going to get less risky if you wait five more years to take it. If there’s a secret plan in your heart that fills you with excitement, start mapping out the steps to make it come true and take them. Stop waiting, postponing and finding excuses for why you can’t pursue your heart’s desire.

Now might be the best now you’ll ever have. 

Copyright © Kim Calvert / 2016 Singular Communications, LLC.

Kim Calvert
Kim Calvert is the editor of 
Singular magazine and the founder of the SingularCity social networking community. An outspoken champion of people who are living their lives as a “me” instead of a “we,” Kim oversees the creative direction and editorial content of the magazine and online social networking community. She secures contributors and is responsible for maintaining the fun, upbeat, inspirational and often-humorous tone of Singular, a lifestyle guide for successful single living.


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4 thoughts on “Not So Young Anymore

  1. Good article! Being honest with ourselves is most important, I feel. As far as the bucket list goes, do whatever it is that you’ve put off for “later.” In my case, poor health came unexpectedly later in life (I’m 73) and it has been difficult to realize dreams now. Fortunately, I took a risk with a man I met on the Green Singles website a few years ago, and moved across country to begin a new country style, simplified life together…it has been a huge plus for me. I think I am the exception with such a bold move, but it can be done. Life is short….eat dessert first!

  2. I’m 63 3/4 and after about three years of slowing down, my momentum is picking back up and life is looking good. I just returned from a cross-country drive over a three week period and had a blast. I have been on full throttle most of my life but I consciously made myself slow down and enjoy the trip. I stopped and saw the sights, hiked the south rim of the Grand Canyon, and toured the Painted Desert and Petrified Forest. I met the most wonderful people in the most unexpected places. I am already planning my next trip in the spring. I have traveled our great country a lot but was always in a hurry so now I am excited to really appreciate it more.
    Here’s to life after 60!

  3. Good reminder! I’m moving forward thanks to you ! Question: anyone out there with no children feeling regrets? Feeling ‘life not fully lived’? I know it’s not a positive way to move into future, just would like to hear others thoughts, feelings how to deal with this. It may be similar to Kim suddenly realizing need to get going…I spent my life not thinking about consequences of no children – realizing too, many friends have pain regarding child – estranged or deceased etc. Now it’s too late to experience it. How to come to acceptance? Anyone else out there realizing will never experience the joyful change, love like you didn’t realize existed, etc. once you have a child, grandchild?
    I”m coming more to terms with it moreso. Thanks

    1. Hi Leslie! I too did not have children and ponder this… However, I have been a Big Sister and a court appointed special advocate (CASA) where you are mentoring kids in the foster care system that have no one in most cases, except for you! It has been fulfilling and enriching…and fills in the gap of not having a child in such a meaningful way. You are doing more, than some parents are doing for their children–especially for these kids–whose parents have pretty much abandoned them. If you want more information, let me know. The need is great.

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