SingularCity gets together for a weekend in a charming village on California’s Central Coast and what happened in Cambria should definitely not stay in Cambria.
So how was the SingularCity Cambria weekend? I don’t know how successful it was from a business point of view, and I don’t know if more people will join SingularCity as a result. But for the 17 people who came, it was a wonderful experience.
In a way, it was a glimpse into a bit of singular bliss: the idea that men and women could live side by side and enjoy each other’s company without a hook-up agenda coloring everything in “high-pressure red.” It was, as usual for SingularCity get-togethers, unlike any “singles event” I’ve ever attended. No desperation or flashy mating displays to attract the opposite sex – just some interesting individuals who happened to be single. OK, there was that one love connection that started after our trip to Santa Barbara last spring, but even they were part of a beautiful tapestry of people who came together to enjoy a lovely weekend in a charming seaside village on California’s Central Coast.
I know I tend to be idealistic, but I couldn’t help but fantasize about how great it would be if this kind of micro-community could exist everywhere – and beyond just a weekend getaway. One of our guests, Bella DePaulo, Ph.D, wrote a book, “How We Live Now: Redefining Home and Family in the 21st Century,” that reveals how, more than ever before, people are creating living situations that suit them best – situations that create symbiotic relationships where people can be both independent and socially connected besides being in a nuclear family or part of a romantic couple. I got a glimpse of one of those new social paradigms, in its nascent form, during our SingularCity weekend in Cambria.
Some people had their own rooms at the Cambria Pines Lodge. Some shared. Some drove in their own cars, some rode up and back in a passenger van I rented for the trip. Some had been friends for years, others had never met before. We didn’t all do the same things throughout the day – some went to visit StepLadder Ranch, some went shopping, some sightseeing, some went wine tasting and some slept in – but we reconvened, without fail, to enjoy a meal together at a big community table at least once a day during our Cambria adventure.
Looking at the happy faces around the table, whether at Robin’s the first night, Moonstone Beach Bar & Grill on the second, or at our delightful Sunday brunch at Indigo Moon Café, I realized there is no need to feel isolated when there’s a choice to connect. And how beautiful it was to see my singular friends liberated from other people’s ideas of what it means to be single – to see them laughing, talking and enjoying each other’s company in a connected community of caring human beings.
Joyfully connected – that’s what I saw throughout our weekend in Cambria. It was my little glimpse into a SingularCity utopia where you can choose to spend time alone, but loneliness is never an option.
© Kim Calvert/2015 Singular Communications, LLC.
Kim Calvert is the editor of Singular magazine and the founder of the SingularCity social networking community. An outspoken champion of people who are living their lives as a “me” instead of a “we,” Kim oversees the creative direction and editorial content of the magazine and online social networking community. She secures contributors and is responsible for maintaining the fun, upbeat, inspirational and often-humorous tone of Singular, a lifestyle guide for successful single living.