Samurai believed in self-discipline, respect and ethical behavior. Some of their principles might come in handy for single people living in a couple-centric world.
The Samaurai were some awesome doses of wasabi sauce. They lived by the motto, “Hey it’s good to be single because you never know when you could get slashed in half by an enemy sword.” They even said, “Sleep next to death,” which gave urgency to hookups.
These warriors lived by a very structured code that gave meaning to life. It was a code that lives in the DNA of every Asian student who’s ever considered suicide over a B on their report card. It’s the way, in this increasingly single world, that you can stand out even when HD enhances every imperfection on our profile pictures and a simple swipe of the thumb can eliminate our carefully crafted self-esteem.
Maybe it’s time to consider the samurai way when confronting the all too common perils of being single.
“One Cut – One Kill”
Musashi, the greatest of all Samurai swordsmen, knew the value of a head cut. Why elongate pain? If you are experiencing the unpleasantness of bad date, breathe out the spirit of your frustration; breathe in your samurai spirit of “one cut, one kill” and then stand, figuratively, literally, even in the midst of a 4-star restaurant, express gratitude and leave, even forsaking a doggy bag.
Being too “picky”
“To find the perfect grain in a sea of sand is futile.”
Move, in circles, like the samurai did with their footwork. Use exercise, breath and the releasing chi of martial arts to contemplate, “What am I?” instead of fixating on what’s not right about the external. Focus on the internal because ultimately, all movement leads back to you.
Being solo in a coupled world
“Intent reveals the courage and truth of the swordsman.”
When Samurai entered the room, everyone focused on the Samurai, not only because of the title conferred on them, but because they internalized the title. Embrace your singular intent and purpose with your total mind, body and spirit. Before you go out into the world, breathe, move and contemplate as the samurai did when they prepared for battle. Train the body to penetrate the mind to release the spirit, for it is the spirit that reveals your intent and purpose as you walk this path alone. Realize that you can be influenced by the wind of others or you can choose to hold true to who you really are.
The “are you dating anyone?” question
“To anticipate based on the reaction of another, will surely lead to death.”
In all things, be Bushido, as in breathe-move-contemplate in order to integrate mind, body and spirit to the task. Martial arts-based (MMA) is the best way to move the mind toward the question, “What is the assumption that the external world imposes?” That you are lonely? Unfulfilled? In fact, you may find your inner spirit is relatively at peace, until the stones thrown by others disrupt your placidity. Through the energy you generate by your breathing, MMA, and contemplation, you will reinvigorate your original intent and exert the energy you need to resist the assumptions of others.
In all things WRITE
“For in the consideration of all things, the pen is mightier than the sword.”
According to Andrew Newberg, M.D. and Mark Robert Waldman, in their book, Words Can Change Your Brain, they write: “A single word has the power to influence the expression of genes that regulate physical and emotional stress.” Writing can help, heal and harmonize everything from depression to arthritis. Choose a sacred place that is only for you. Hand write on quality paper with an elegant pen that fits your hand. Give supreme value to your words because they form your intent. The samurai wrote out their intimacies:
“What do I truly want?”
“What do I want from this?”
The mind must be cleansed before action can be taken with purity of purpose. Writing is a supreme step, along with breathing, MMA, and the reading aloud, pacing, and internal examination of your words to bring the full spring flower to fruition in the garden of your precious singlehood.
So says the Samurai.
Copyright © Terry Tae Chung/2017 Singular Communications, LLC.
Terry Tae Chung is CEO of New Asianism. He has worked with the L.A. Unified School District, the Small Business Association, the Mayor’s Office of Economic Development, the L.A. Police Dept., and has been a finance professional for companies like Waddell and Reed and Bank of America. He specializes in new ways of looking at effectiveness in work-money-life management, through mind-body-spirit integration.