The old idea that men enjoy the challenge of chasing women is laid to rest by self-proclaimed honest, hetero single dude, The Naked Truther.
A married female friend of mine tried to tell me tonight she believes men lose interest after they’ve “got” the woman because it’s all about “the chase.” I’ve heard this analysis from other women before and wonder how they ever came up with this one. I’m here to once and for all, refute this notion that men love the chase. It’s complete and total BS.
Sure, I understand why women would think men enjoy it. All the crazy stuff we do, the attempts, the time spent to woo is usually considerable and often bordering on ridiculous. But this effort has nothing to do with the pleasure of the journey. It’s all about the end result. Most men will do whatever they need to do in order to succeed. We are goal oriented: for food, jobs and for women — especially for women.
Do not confuse our excitement with the final result and all of the painful steps it took to get there. To illustrate:
Two guys walk into a bar at 9 p.m. The first guy talks to as many ladies as he can over the next 4 hours. He empties his wallet buying drinks, eventually gets drunk, meets a woman at last call and is lucky enough to take her home at 2 a.m., but not before they stop to grab something to eat. Then they go back to her place for a long, drawn out make-out session where they may or may not end up having sex. He eventually passes out at around 5 a.m.
The second guy who walked into the bar at 9 p.m. meets a girl at 9:05. They share a laugh, have one drink and by 9:45, they’re making out hard core. The girl whispers into his ear that she wants to have sex with him. He pays the tab and they leave straight back to her place. By 10:30, they’re naked. By midnight, he’s sound asleep. Happy. Contented. Satisfied.
Okay ladies, here’s the question: which guy do you think any man would prefer to be? If your answer is not the second guy, then no wonder you have problems with men. You still have a lot to learn.
The first thing you need to understand about men is that just about everything we do is geared toward getting women. The car we drive, the jobs we do, the clothes we wear, the smart ass comments we make. It’s all about attracting the lady. Plus, time is money … and blue balls. Efficiency is the name of our game. All this chasing, jumping through hoops business is exhausting. If we could get women by sitting in our underwear, watching cartoons on TV, and eating cheese, we’d never leave the house — ever!
The only time where it may be valid to suggest that we like chasing women is because we don’t like it when women give off the vibe that they’re easy — with everyone. We want you to be “easy” only because it’s us. Essentially, in our particular case, you’re not making us chase you because there’s no point in trying to resist our charm, good looks and magic hands.
If a guy does quickly lose interest in you after he’s “gotten you” then sorry sister, he was never really that into you to begin with and was probably only interested in having sex with you. It’s referred to as: “Hit it and quit it.”
I think the men like chasing women misconception comes from the fact that women are the ones who enjoy being chased, so naturally, they just think we should enjoy it too. Sorry to burst your bubble on this one. Just ask Vinnie Chase. In Entourage some girl told him that he was going to have to “work for it.” He laughed off her requirement and said “The reason I got famous was so I wouldn’t have to work for it anymore.” Normal men only work because they have to, not because they want to.
If anything, we tolerate the chase, just as long as in the end, we get what we were chasing. If chasing women was so enjoyable for men, it wouldn’t matter if we ever got the girl because the chase would be the fun part.
Honestly, the ride sucks. Parking the car in the garage is where it’s at.
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