Guys with Game

Guys with Game

He has the lines to get a woman into bed, the charm that makes her not care that he’s a player. But does this still work in today’s “liberated” world?

Guys with Game
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We were sitting next to each other at a big community table at a trendy Westside restaurant. I couldn’t help but eavesdrop. Mark was reeling her in as surely as a fisherman sets the hook and plays the line. It was a wonder to behold. He gave her focused attention, then turned away, momentarily distracted, only to turn back to her again with even more dazzling charm.

She knew he was a bona fide flirt, but he did it with such finesse that his sincerity wasn’t relevant. She was sure that similar episodes had unfolded before, but all that mattered now was the moment, and at this particular moment, Mark was making her feel like the most desirable woman in the world.

It looked something like this:

“You like chocolate?”

“Well, of course,” she responded.

“Have you ever had those mint-flavored chocolate espresso beans from Trader Joe’s?”

“No. I don’t like mint.”

“But you like chocolate?”

“Yes, I do. Dark chocolate.”

He got up from the table and left. I thought it was done — his desire for candy trumping his desire for her. But 10 minutes later, Mark returned, in his hand a box of mint chocolate espresso beans, which he placed on the table before her. He peeled off the lid and offered her one, popping two into his mouth. She politely agreed to taste his favorite candy, but then removed it from her mouth and placed it on the napkin, wrinkling her nose.

“You really don’t like it?” he said, cocking his eyebrow in mock disbelief. As she shook her head no, he picked up the partially eaten, wet-with-her-saliva mint chocolate candy and finished it off.

Now, if you weren’t there, that may sound gross.  But if you were watching the dance (because it was so much more than words), what Mark just told her was that there was nothing about her he wouldn’t mind tasting.

Then, as the pièce de résistance, he pulled out a bar of solid dark chocolate, her favorite, still pristinely wrapped in gold foil, and placed it in front of her, watching closely as delight filled her eyes.

Now that, ladies and gentlemen, is an example of a man with game — defined by the Urban Dictionary as ”a measure of smoothness with the opposite sex” and also as “lines or moves you use to get the opposite sex into bed.” In either case, it works — as long as it’s delivered with the correct balance of confidence, humor, charm and subtle, yet sexual, savoir-faire. 

The repartee is different in each situation, but what remains the same is the way most women respond. It doesn’t matter how many times they’ve ended up in the sack when they weren’t expecting to, most women like “game” because it’s engaging, fun and as rare as a white panther. Stumble upon a man with good game and we’re transfixed with wonder, even though we know we could be eaten alive — or at the very least, left with some blushful memories.

The best seem to have been born with it. Ask them about their “game” and they’ll deny they have it, confusing their ability to have a long-term relationship with “having game” — two very different things. A man with natural game can’t even tell when he’s flirting — until his girlfriend kicks him under the table, leaving a bruise that never heals.

Other men try to learn game. They’ve seen it in action and know it’s a tool that would serve them well — if only they could master the technique. And just as there are relationship coaches for women, there are “pick-up artist” instructors for men —guys who teach other guys how to have game for themselves. There’s even an annual Global Pick-up Artist Convention where $299 buys you  two days of classroom training, followed by practice “in the field” under the watchful eye of your “got game” instructor.

Singular magazine writer Barbara Bloom attended one and described it like this:  “At first glance, this provocative program seems like a sinister underground community of womanizers, but look closer and you’ll find hundreds of socially awkward males, just trying to learn how to be outgoing and more confident.”

And really, at the end of the day, isn’t that something most women like? A man who is confident and comfortable with the women in his life?

Dennis Neder hosts a radio show called “Being a Man,” and says he teaches men how to have game, among other skills. “It’s not enough to be charming,” Neder says. “It’s a matter of speaking in a way that resonates with women — in your own language — and touching on the key points that create real feelings and emotions. It’s not tough to do, but it is a real skill. Some learn it, but most don’t.”

Few will disagree that a man with game will have a more active sex life than a man who fumbles, bumbles and stumbles with the opposite sex. “It’s a lot like dancing,” says Albert Blondeel-Timmerman, who works in the television industry and has been single since his divorce in 2003. “You’ve seen those guys out on the dance floor who are just doing their own thing, completely out of touch with their partner. And then you see the guys who are actually dancing with a woman.  In the previous case, the woman is bored and tolerating him, in the latter; she’s floating on air. That’s game!”

Still, it may all come down to how you define “having game” and whether it comes naturally or was learned at a “how to pick up women” course.  If game means a man is capable of creating an engaging conversation with a women, if he actually listens to what she has to say and responds in a way that proves he was listening all the while simmering with subtle sexual promise — in short, if he makes her feel like Scarlett O’Hara in a scene with Clark Gable in Gone with the Wind — he likely has a more interesting sex life than his clueless brothers.

Ben (who asked to be identified by his first name only), a single Angeleno in the dating scene summarized it this way: “I don’t have it, but I know guys who do. Having game is a guy working a woman, who before she can say `I’m not that kind of girl’ — she is.” At least for the night.

Copyright © Kim Calvert/2020 Singular Communications, LLC.

Kim Calvert, editor of Singular magazine.
Kim Calvert is the editor of 
Singular magazine and the founder of the SingularCity social networking community. An outspoken champion of people who are living their lives as a “me” instead of a “we,” Kim oversees the creative direction and editorial content of the magazine and online social networking community. She secures contributors and is responsible for maintaining the fun, upbeat, inspirational and often-humorous tone of Singular, a lifestyle guide for independent thinkers.

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Older Singles Aren’t Always Lonely

Older Singles Aren’t Always Lonely

There’s an assumption that single people of a certain age are lonely — but many seniors prefer peaceful solitude without interference from family and friends.

Older Singles Aren’t Always Lonely
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There’s been a lot of press about loneliness lately, especially aging and loneliness. You’ve probably seen the German commercial featuring an elderly man who pretends to be dead, hoping his kids will finally come home for the holidays.

This commercial has gone viral and reactions are all over the map. Writing in the Washington Post, Colby Itkowitz suggests the commercial will “resonate” with viewers: “Witnessing an elderly person eating a meal alone is a heartwrenching sight,” he says. There’s an assumption that older singles are lonely — but many seniors prefer peaceful solitude without interference from family and friends.

At the other extreme, commenters see the man in the commercial as a manipulative grinch. No wonder his kids didn’t want to visit, they say. He seems to be comfortably off. If the family won’t come, why doesn’t he take a holiday cruise or find something to occupy his time? 

In fact, for many singles, eating a meal alone isn’t heartwrenching. It’s liberating. You choose your food. You read a book or watch a video. Maybe you skip dinner and go to a movie. And you can point to a BBC article, which points out that many people voluntarily choose to spend the holidays on their own. 

Sure, it’s nice to share dinner with a good friend. But sitting around a table with strangers to avoid loneliness? Making small talk with somebody else’s relatives you’ll never see again? No thanks.

Second, the commercial suggests that anyone who feels lonely is entitled to companionship, especially in the form of visits from adult children. The truth is, families create emotional memories that would scare away the most well-meaning kinfolk.

How about this message from a relative: “You’re so mean and selfish!  Why won’t you come visit us?” 

Or how about favoring one child over another? In a Wall Street Journal Q&A, a reader wrote that her son scheduled his marriage on the same day her daughter was getting a Ph.D. This reader felt the daughter should sacrifice her graduation to attend the brother’s wedding. The daughter wouldn’t be in the wedding party; she’d be assigned to “manage the guest book.”  The WSJ columnist agreed.

As singles expert Bella DePaulo pointed out on her PsychCentral blog, a Ph.D. lasts a lifetime while fully half of marriages end. As a single person, I hope that daughter divorces her family and gets on with her life. If they keep her on the margins of a family wedding, she can keep them at a distance on the holidays.

Apart from history, who wants to visit needy, dependent people?

Family visits are like bank loans. They’re more likely to come when you don’t need them. Grandparents who create a busy lifestyle tend to get visited. And when the kids stay away, they’re too busy to care.

What if we turned these loneliness complaints around? What if we advise anyone who is lonely to create a life that’s going to attract visitors? Get a gym membership, a dog, and a social life. 

If you can get around and you have a dog, especially in an urban neighborhood, you will not be alone all day. You will be healthier and you will meet many wonderful dog owners. In fact, a lot of senior loneliness would be disappear if laws were changed to allow people over 65 to have dogs wherever they live.

Finally, many people are lonely because (a) they’ve been taught there’s something wrong with them if they’re not coupled up; b) they can’t drive and don’t have access to public transportation; and (c) age discrimination forces people to stop working earlier than they would otherwise.

As for (b) and (c), we don’t need more psychological analysis or guilt trips inflicted on distant relatives. We need urban planning and aggressive attacks on stereotypes.

Ashamed of being alone? Look around and review the research. Read Anthony Storr’s book, Solitude. Storr, a British psychiatrist, argues that his own profession focuses too much on relationships and not enough on the joys of work and solitary joys. Also read Bella DePaulo’s book, Singled Out, where she exposes flaws in research showing that marriage leads to superior mental health.

These attitudes ultimately lead to serious harm, as when older people are shoved into institutions because of beliefs that anything’s better than solitude. In her book Never Say Die, Susan Jacoby describes a man who jumped off a bridge when he was forced to live 24/7 with a caretaker. He’d literally die for solitude. Many singles feel the same way. 

Copyright © Cathy Goodwin/2020 Singular Communications, LLC.

Cathy Goodwin
Cathy Goodwin, Ph.D., is an online copywriter who helps business owners develop a professional, authentic presence online. She is a former college professor, published author and accomplished speaker. Visit Cathy’s website to learn more.

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Bowling for Brains 2020

Bowling for Brains
This year, Bowling for Brains will take place on Saturday, February 29 from 2-5 pm — once again at the Pinz Bowling Center at in Studio City, CA 91604.

Every year, SingularCity supports Bowling for Brains, a fundraiser for Foundation ThinkAgain!, a non-profit organization that provides rehabilitation therapies to children severely affected by cancer and brain tumors. If you’ve been on our SingularCity team in previous years, you know how much fun it is — and how awesome it is to help these kids.

This year, Bowling for Brains will take place on Saturday, February 29 from 2-5 pm — once again at the Pinz Bowling Center at 12655 Ventura Blvd., Studio City, CA 91604.

It’s easy to participate! First, register by going to this webpage: https://www.thinkagain.org/bowling-registration/.  Fill out the form and include that you would like to be on the SingularCity team.

This is a FUNDRAISER, so after you register, simply ask your friends, family, neighbors and co-workers to click on this page and make a donation on your behalf so Foundation ThinkAgain can continue to help these kids!

Set your goals high! Make us proud! Of course, as a team member, you are welcome to make a donation in your own name.

We will all be playing in adjacent lanes. It’s all one big party with free food, sodas and shoe rental, along with tons of great prizes for fundraising achievements and bowling scores.

If you can’t make it or don’t want to play, you can still donate.

Please step up and support this worthy cause!

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Waiting to Tie the Knot By Taylor McAvoy There was a time when women went to college to get a “Mrs. Degree” but as gender equality moves toward reality, the rush to marry has begun to fade.

Waiting to Tie the Knot

There was a time when women went to college to get a “Mrs. Degree” but as gender equality moves toward reality, the rush to marry has begun to fade.

Waiting to Tie the Knot By Taylor McAvoy There was a time when women went to college to get a “Mrs. Degree” but as gender equality moves toward reality, the rush to marry has begun to fade.
Andrei Ivanov / 123RF Photo

Marriage is falling behind in America as single ladies take the lead, and it’s a trend more women should embrace. So many of us are guilty of swiping through Tinder, or the more feminist app Bumble in search for Mr. Right when we should be embracing our single status. Sure, it’s fun to talk to new matches online and go on dates, but we shouldn’t be so serious about it. The rush to find “the one” is slowing down.

Rebecca Traister, author of All The Single Ladies told Terry Gross on NPR’s daily talk show Fresh Air, that only 20 percent of Americans between ages 18-29 are married, compared to 60 percent in 1960. Not only is marriage becoming less popular, but the median age for a woman’s first marriage is rising. Traister cited a statistic that between 1890 and 1980, the median age for a woman’s first marriage was between 20-22. Compare that to today’s median age of over 27. So college ladies, chill. We have lots of time to find a husband.

The postponement of marriage may also be due to financial reasons. Later marriage can be more beneficial for women because it means both people are much more likely to be secure in their careers and living independently, which levels the playing field between partners.

According to The New York Times, there was a long-term decline in marriage during the recession. It makes sense to be financially stable before tying the knot, and if marriage is going to make a financial situation worse, many would rather cohabitate with their partner without getting married, or just remain single.

Women have faced social and economic inequality for centuries, and now that women have more freedom, the need for marriage has become less significant. Some women make a conscious choice not to marry because they want to live independently, and others may want to marry someday but simply haven’t found someone that will improve upon the life they want to build.

Even within marriage, women’s rights have only recently been solidified. Traister points out how women used to give up individual legal rights when she married her husband. The couple was considered a unit with the man as the leader.

Quoting Susan B. Anthony in her speech “Homes of Single Women,” Traister said that Anthony predicted there would one day be gender equality, and that path needed to be in an era when women no longer married.

“As young women become educated in the industries of the world, thereby learning the sweetness of independent bread,” Anthony writes, “it will be more and more impossible for them to accept the … marriage limitation that ‘husband and wife are one, and that one the husband.’”

We’re certainly making progress, but it make take another generation of independent-minded women to finally make Anthony’s vision of true gender equality a reality.

A version of this article first appeared in “The Daily” at the University of Washington. It is one of the most awarded college newspapers in the United States.

Taylor McAvoy is a staff writer, columnist, and photographer with “The Daily” at the University of Washington.
Taylor McAvoy is a staff writer, columnist, and photographer with “The Daily” at the University of Washington. She is a sophomore pursuing a bachelor’s degree in Journalism with an interest in multimedia reporting and plans on graduating with a minor in Law, Societies, and Justice. Taylor has a passion for the outdoors and enjoys skiing, biking, hiking, and horseback riding. She hopes to be able to use those passions along with her dedication to journalistic values to find a rewarding and successful career path.

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The Benefits of Eating Alone

The Benefits of Eating Alone

No conversation, no TV, no phone, no magazines and no computer. Discover how delicious a meal can taste when you enjoy it without distractions.

The Benefits of Eating AloneIakov Filimonov / 123RF Photo

I love to eat. I am also a recovering emotional eater who’s been known to put away an entire pizza in one sitting if triggered by an unsettling event or memory.

As we become busier and busier in a society bombarded with electronic devices and social media updates, it’s no wonder many of us feel increasingly distracted. We rush through our meals so we can get back to work, our favorite TV show, or Instagram. Walk into any restaurant and you’re bound to see people with their heads down, clicking away at their phones, pretending to be engaged with what’s going on around them.

Which is why when I recently learned about “mindful eating,” I was immediately intrigued.

During a week-long spiritual retreat at a yoga and health center, silent breakfasts were implemented. We couldn’t communicate at all: no asking if something was gluten-free, no small talk with table mates, nothing.

At first I thought, “How am I going to do this?” I’m extremely outgoing, love getting to know people, and sharing a meal is a perfect time to socialize. What I found, however, is that practicing the art of silent breakfast is not only doable, it’s also enjoyable and has some serious health benefits.

You don’t need to keep quiet at every meal to eat mindfully; what it comes down to, really, is eating with intention and attention. Listen to what your body tells you it wants as fuel. Pay attention to your food rather than your phone. Be aware of how food makes you feel.

Here are some of the benefits I’ve experienced from continuing a practice of mindful eating:

Peace of mind.

When I eat in silence, I find myself at ease and stress-free. Focusing on my body and the food in front of me without having to worry about making conversation or keeping up gives me the opportunity to deeply relax into my dining space and engage all my senses with each bite. For the first time, I can truly pay attention to how something looks on a plate, the delicious aromas wafting into my nose, how something sounds as I cut into it, the crunch between my teeth and the taste.

The intention of eating in silence is to center you for a day of calm and peace, and starting your day with a mindful eating practice fires up each of your five senses, resulting in a clear, focused, creative, joyful day ahead.

Weight loss.

When I practice mindful eating, I consume about a third of what I normally eat. Why? When I’m not focused on a screen, I enjoy my food more and instantly notice when I’m full. Because I am listening to my body, I stop eating when it tells me it’s had enough rather than ignoring it or missing signals because I’m distracted.

find it’s much easier to control the amount of food I eat, and I feel more satisfied than when I eat mindlessly.

Proper nourishment.

Savor the moment. We’re so conditioned to talk, swipe, text, and email while eating, but truly nourishing yourself is more than just what you eat. Nourishment is about sustenance: what you feed your body but also how you fuel your soul. Nurture yourself during meals by being fully present, and truly enjoying your food.

Here are several simple ways you can practice mindful eating:

  1. Relax the body and mind with a few deep breaths before eating.
  2. Send gratitude to everyone who prepared your food.
  3. Admire your food; notice all the shapes and colors.
  4. Breathe in all the wonderful aromas of the meal.
  5. Chew thoroughly, delighting in the depths of flavor.
  6. Relax for a few minutes before moving to the next event.

Mindful eating is a daily commitment and might take some practice. The keys are awareness, nonjudgment and understanding what you’re feeding. Are you physically hungry for food or something else, like love or comfort? When you aren’t distracted, it’s much easier to differentiate between the two, and when you’re aware, you can make healthier choices.

Kate  Eckman
Kate  Eckman is an empowerment coach, motivational speaker and author of the blog,   
Love Yourself, Love Your Life, sharing inspirational stories about self-confidence, healthy body image, personal growth, beauty and fitness. She is also  a certified Reiki Master,  QVC On-Air Beauty Host and Wilhelmina model. You can connect with Kate on her websiteFacebook, Twitter and Instagram.

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Join us on Sunday, December 29 on board the Queen Mary https://www.queenmary.com/ for one of Southern California's best Champagne Sunday brunches served in the Grand Salon, once the First Class dining room back in the days when the ship made its trans-Atlantic voyages.

Queen Mary Holiday Brunch

Join us on Sunday, December 29 on board the Queen Mary https://www.queenmary.com/ for one of Southern California's best Champagne Sunday brunches served in the Grand Salon, once the First Class dining room back in the days when the ship made its trans-Atlantic voyages.
Join us on the Queen Mary for a culinary adventure with over 50 unique dishes from around the globe.

Join us on Sunday, December 29 on board the Queen Mary  for one of Southern California’s best Champagne Sunday brunches served in the Grand Salon, once the First Class dining room back in the days when the ship made its trans-Atlantic voyages.

It’s truly a spectacular culinary adventure with over 50 unique dishes from around the globe. The all-you-can-eat food-fest includes made-to-order omelets, pancakes, eggs benedict and homemade hash. There are international dishes too: Mexican, Japanese, Asian and Italian. Cleanse your palate at the salad station featuring a chef crafted Cobb salad, imported tuna nicoise and a variety of domestic and imported cheeses. Then indulge in the prime rib with au jus and leg of lamb with mint jus and the seafood station with shrimp, salmon, crab legs and more. And for dessert: eclairs, macaroons, chocolate mousse, fruit tarts, cheesecake, chocolate, pecan bars, and truffles – it’s insane! Oh, and did we mention the free-flowing champagne? And the live jazz?

We will have a large table all our own and after brunch, can explore the ship which is festively decorated for the Christmas holiday.

The cost is $79.00 with champagne and $69.00 sans bubbly (plus tax and tip).

There’s plenty of parking and traffic should be light since it’s a Sunday and the week between Christmas and New Year’s.

If you would like to attend, send an email to events@singularcity.com with QUEEN MARY in the subject line. We will contact you with further details.

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French Polynesian paradise on the island of Moorea, just a 30-minute ferry ride from Tahiti. Photo by Elisabeth Stern.

Take Me to Tahiti – 5 Tips for an Affordable Trip

Tahiti: a word that inspires a sigh of longing from anyone who hears it. Don’t wait for a special occasion that may never come – make plans to go now.

French Polynesian paradise on the island of Moorea, just a 30-minute ferry ride from Tahiti. Photo by Elisabeth Stern.
French Polynesian paradise on the island of Moorea, just a 30-minute ferry ride from Tahiti. Photo by Elisabeth Stern.

For decades, Tahiti and its surrounding islands, which stretch some 1,000 miles from east to west and north to south, have earned the reputation of being a luxury destination, a place you only go to once, usually for a romantic occasion like a honeymoon or wedding anniversary. It’s the kind of place we hold in our perception as being so special — and so expensive — that we think going there should be reserved for a special reason and for many that means never going at all.

It’s time to change that old idea. While French Polynesia is never “cheap,” it can be affordable and definitely does not require a romantic partner. Make plans to go solo, with a friend or a group. You can have a perfectly wonderful and affordable vacation in this tropical paradise without going into debt if you’re willing to stop wishing and start planning with these five Tahiti travel tips.

  1. Focus on Moorea. All international flights must land at the Papeete International Airport on the island of Tahiti. The closest island to Tahiti is Moorea, just a 30-minute, $12 ferry ride away. Bora Bora, Le Taha’a, Tuamoto Atolls and other islands will require another plane fare and additional flight time. Why spend extra time in the airport and extra money when you can enjoy a couple nights in Tahiti and then take the ferry to Moorea for the remaining nights of your vacation? Moorea is absolutely stunning and has everything you’ve been dreaming to see: iridescent turquoise seas brimming with colorful tropical fish, sea turtles and corals; craggy volcanic peaks covered in lush green vegetation, exotic fruits and flowers growing wild and fresh water springs cascading into steep waterfalls. Sure, the other islands are wonderful and if you can afford it, by all means go. But you’ll find everything you’ve been dreaming about in Tahiti and Moorea.
  1. Travel during low season. Rates are more expensive in French Polynesia from May 1 to Oct. 31 because the weather is less humid and rainy. The low season runs from Nov. 1 to April 30. If you book during low season, you’ll save on airfare, hotels and get special prices on many excursions and activities. Don’t be put-off by concerns that it will be too hot or too wet. December and January will be the rainiest, so if that’s a concern, consider November and late February or March. But even then, rain tends to be strong and brief, and can even add to the dramatic beauty of your experience. Plus, the temperature difference between low and high season is negligible, usually staying in the high 70s to mid-80s during the day regardless of season with refreshing trade winds along the coastline.
  1. Include a breakfast and dinner package. Dining out is expensive – both for food and drinks. If you’re traveling during the low season, many restaurants will be closed. Unless you’re a light eater, the best bet is to select a hotel that offers the option of what is referred to as a half-board plan. This means your room price includes breakfast (usually a nice buffet) and dinner from the hotel restaurant’s menu. The Manava Beach Resort and Spa in Moorea is great for this. It’s just a few blocks from a small grocery store and has small refrigerators in all the rooms. Purchase fruit, snacks, lunch items and bottled water at the market to bring back to your room to keep you satisfied between breakfast and dinner. Alcohol in French Polynesia is expensive and heavily taxed, so if libations are an essential part of your vacation, purchase up to 2 liters of alcohol (per person) at the duty-free store at your departure airport. Having your own stash could save you hundreds of dollars in a country where a single cocktail can cost $25.
  1. Stay at a vacation rental instead of a resort. If it’s your first time in French Polynesia, staying at a reputable resort is your best strategy. The right travel agency, like travel wholesaler GoWay Travel, can put together some great travel deals and set up your trip so you can park your brain in vacation mode and just follow the itinerary. But once you’re familiar with the lay of the land and ready to go back for your second or third visit, staying at an “Airbnb” or a vacation home you find on VRBO can be a great way to save a bundle. You won’t have the onsite concierge service, restaurants and bar, activities center and daily maid service – but you will save hundreds of dollars in lodging costs. It’s a bit more of a gamble, so read through the reviews from previous guests and be sure to use a top vacation rental website platform.
  1. Book your excursions directly with the operator. Whether it’s an air-conditioned coach tour that circles the island of Tahiti, a scuba diving or snorkeling expedition, a 4×4 Jeep tour, or whirlwind Jet Ski excursion of the sparkling blue lagoons, you’ll save lots if you book directly with the operator. Rates are usually negotiable when you book direct and you also avoid commissions. Good bets in Tahiti are Marama Tours and Tahiti Tours. When you get to Moorea, contact Moorea Explorer. Hotels will set up your excursions, but that adds to the cost.

French Polynesia is a spectacular ecosystem. Its intoxicating beauty is enough to make you wonder if maybe Tahiti and her sister islands were once the original Garden of Eden. It’s not surprising it has a well-earned reputation for luxury travel and if that’s what you seek, you’ll find it in abundance. But the true luxury is in the beauty of the place itself. Don’t miss out because you think it’s too expensive. Say yes and start planning your French Polynesian getaway – the affordable way.

Kim Calvert
Kim Calvert is the editor of 
Singular magazine and the founder of the SingularCity social networking community. An outspoken champion of people who are living their lives as a “me” instead of a “we,” Kim oversees the creative direction and editorial content of the magazine and online social networking community. She’s been to French Polynesia three times and is looking forward to the fourth.

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Festival of Lights in Riverside, CA.

Festival of Lights in Riverside with SingularCity

Join us in Riverside, CA on Saturday, December 28 to experience the Festival of Lights.
Join us in Riverside, CA on Saturday, December 28 to experience the Festival of Lights.

Join us on Saturday, December 28, 2019 for a mini-trip to Riverside, CA to enjoy the 27th Annual Festival of Lights followed by a scrumptious holiday buffet dinner together at the Mission Inn Hotel & Spa.

This 4-star diamond resort, which is the epicenter for the event, will be illuminated with 200 animated figures including angels, elves and Dickens carolers; 5 million dazzling lights, horse-drawn carriage rides, freshly fallen snow and elaborately decorated Christmas trees. A Southern California tradition, the festival was recently named “Best Public Holiday Lights Display in the Nation” by USA Today for the way it creates a magical, Disneyland-like experience.

After enjoying the amazing lights and decorations, we’ll convene at the hotel’s main restaurant at 7:30 p.m. to enjoy their special holiday buffet dinner. The cost is $75 (alcoholic beverages not included). You must pay in advance in order to reserve your place for the dinner. Space is limited.

We will carpool there and back.

Please RSVP by contacting events@singularcity.com with the subject line LIGHTS. We will contact you with further details.

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