The Art of Kissing


Being a good kisser is the key to a happy romantic relationship, but just what makes a kiss good depends on who does the kissing and who is the kissee.

Art of the Kiss

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All men are very aware how important kissing is to women. And I’m not just talking about the first kiss. Being a “good kisser” is paramount to any sustainable relationship. The reason is simply because for women, kissing isn’t just a physical act; rather, it showcases an emotional and intimate connection.

The power and allure of a kiss is why hookers and escorts tend to refrain from it … unless you’re with one who’s offering the GE … as in, “Girlfriend Experience” … that’s what I’ve heard anyway. So, what is it, specifically, that makes a man a good kisser?

Most of the data in my blogs derives from an accurate sampling of the male population which ranges from random strangers to friends and family across all ages, as well as my own personal experience. But when it comes to my kissing theory, I’m only going on what I have personally experienced because I’ve never had one single conversation with another man about kissing proficiency or techniques.

The only time I’ve discussed kissing with other men is to debate who we would and would not kiss. And it’s worth noting that everyone with whom I had this conversation with backed me up on my proclamation: Men will only kiss someone they want to have sex with. And by kiss … I mean KISS.

The sole stand alone was my younger married brother who thinks it’s OK to kiss anyone. Ha. I have no idea where he gets this thinking from. Not from me and certainly not from other men. I figured though, since I made such an absolute statement, I’d point out there’s always an exception. But go ahead. Don’t take my word for it, or my brother’s. Do your own survey. Ask any guy if they’ll wrap their tongue around someone they have no interest in having sex with.

On the flip side, I believe women will kiss just for kissing sake with no other intentions or motives. However, unlike a man who’s already established he wants to have sex with said person BEFORE the kiss, a woman can easily be transformed into now wanting to have sex AFTER a kiss.

Another element to the kiss that I find fascinating is that most women look to the man to initiate it. At least when it comes to the first kiss. Men must be the ones to make it happen. Take control. However, that power is short lived and fleeting. And this is what I think is the hardly mentioned, almost secret art of the “good” kiss. Men must kiss a woman exactly how she wants to be kissed.

Being a good kisser doesn’t necessarily mean your technique or style is better or more skilled than another. It means you know how to follow your partner. No two people kiss the same and no two women like the same kind of kiss. Some of you like it slow, soft and tender. Some of you like it passionate, strong and deep. Some of you like it both ways. Sometimes it depends on your mood, the situation, the environment … the moon. In other words, until we touch lips there’s no way of predicting or knowing how you wish to be handled.

How quickly and smoothly a guy transitions to how the woman wants to kiss determines whether or not he is a “good” kisser. Now, I’m not saying a man cannot move the kiss forward or back on his own. What I’m saying is that he has to properly assess if it’s OK to do so. Proceed, but proceed with caution. A good kisser knows when to take the lead, when to back off, when to follow … how much tongue to use … all of these things require an accurate feeling of what the woman wants, likes and perhaps, needs in that moment. Any misread by the man and his kissing prowess drops.

Bottom line, when it comes to kissing a woman, the key is much the same as with other things. Give her what she wants.

Copyright © The Naked Truther / 2013 Singular Communications, LLC.

“The Naked Truther” is an anonymous blogger who claims to provide the naked truth about how men feel and think about women. You can read more from the “Truther” by visiting

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  1. Naked Truther – I love your blog!!! I used to read it religiously and was bummed when you stopped updating it last spring. It was a nice surprise to see your name up above and to see that you started posting on your blog site again. Keep writing! It is so refreshing to read the honest male perspective!

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